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“Distractions are a must”

How often to you find yourself so involved in your work that all you can think about is what it takes to get it done and meeting your deadlines so you don’t make anyone mad or even get fired?

This can prove to be a very stressful situation. Sometimes, all you need is a small distraction. Distractions are a must if you want to refresh, reset, re-energize, and refocus your mind, body and spirit.

Join the conversation:

What are some things that you do to distract yourself for that quick moment you need to refresh, reset, re-energize, and refocus your mind, body and spirit so that you can get back in there and get things done again?

 

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Effective Communication Skills

How many times have you ever found yourself in a conversation, ceremony, motivational speech, or any situation in which you had no idea what was being said because of the speaker’s inability to communicate effectively?  Words are powerful and can make a person seem intelligent.  But, on the opposite end of that spectrum can also make a person feel dumb.  You have to be careful what words you use, how you use them, and who you use them with.  When you are communicating to an audience, or even an individual, fancy words will lose their impact if misunderstood or misinterpreted.  Even though you did not intentionally try to demean a person, it is possible that an awkward moment or situation could be created because of your ineffective communication skills, over use, or under use of words.

There have been many situations in which I have had to repeat myself, depending on my audience and the interpretation of what was said.  I have no problem with repeating myself and will say things 3-5 different ways to get my point across if need to, depending if what I said was understood fully or not.  However, there are many people who have the “I will not repeat myself” mentality.  I would much rather repeat myself and ensure that everything was understood than to have an employee out there beating his/her head up trying to figure out the intent behind something that was said because of ineffective communications skills, or if I used the wrong words.

 

The following tips will help you communicate more proficiently and be better understood by any audience:

Listen – The most important thing you can do when communicating is to listen. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.   Believe me, listening sends a louder message than any words you could ever say to anyone.

Keep it simple – Say what you have to say and nothing more.  Don’t feel like you have to construct long, elaborate, drawn out, sentences to get your point across.  This will only cause boredom and you will lose the attention of your audience.

 Know your audience – A conversation will not have the same impact if you were talking to children, teens, young adults, professionals, amateurs, and so on….  It is imperative that you know your audience.  You would not try to sell a magazine to a bunch of blind people or certainly try to play a beautiful piece of music to a deaf audience.  So you need to know who it is that you are talking to first so that you don’t lose or confuse them.

Dictionary words – The use of big, fancy dictionary words does not impress anyone, so don’t use them.  If anything, you will confuse your audience with what you really mean, especially if they don’t know what the words you are using mean.  At the opposite end of that spectrum is the use of unnecessary words.  Admit it, there are times you have been in a conversation in which you had no idea what the main point was because of overuse of words which caused the main point not to shine through all the additional verbiage.

 Look at them directly – Talk directly to people, not at or away from them.  It is very uncomfortable and causes tension if both people talking do not look at each other by looking away or “the 1000 yard stare conversation”.  It creates a situation in which trust and genuineness is doubted.

Think before you speak – How often have you seen or heard someone talking and wondered “why is this guy talking”, or “there he/she goes again”?  Let’s face it, there are going to be times in which we wish we could take back something that we said.  But, if you happen to step on your own tongue and say something you either didn’t mean to or you mistakenly said the wrong thing, it is possible to recover from that mistake if you genuinely apologize and re-state what was supposed to be said in a respectful and professional manner.

Offensive versus defensive – Don’t be offensive when speaking.  Crude, rude, and vulgar language makes you sound unintelligent, weak-minded and it is disrespectful.  Being defensive also makes you look weak or you are lying.  If someone does not challenge you about what you are saying then there is no need to defend it.  Say what you have to say and leave it at that.

 Watch your tone – It’s not only important “what” you say, but “how” you say it as well.  Your tone of voice and the way you say words can have a positive or negative impact. You will have your audience in the palm of your hand, running for the hills, ready to defend, or not listening to you at all depending on the tone of voice in which you are talking to them.  If you speak in a clear, concise, professional, caring tone of voice you have your audience right where you want them.  But, if you speak in a condescending tone of voice, as if you were talking down to your audience you will either have them on the defense or not listening to you at all.  So, be careful “how” you talk to people as it could be disastrously misinterpreted.

Everyone loves a story –Tell your audience a story if you have a personal or professional experience that will describe what you are trying to say that gives a great example.  By doing this, it makes what you are trying to say seem more “human” and people can relate to a story better, especially if there is something humorous in there that they have done too.

Avoid using slang – Slang words confuse people especially if they don’t know the meaning behind the word.  This could cause an awkward or negative situation depending on the interpretation of the slang.

Body language says it all – You could be trying to say the most motivating, inspirational, uplifting thing in the world and your body language will cause what you are saying to lose its impact.  If you are excited about something then don’t hesitate to get your entire body into the action and let it do some speaking as well.  How often have you heard someone speak and they just stood there straight, rigid, almost scared and sounded extremely monotone.  This would make for a boring conversation, wouldn’t it?   If you are excited about what you are saying, you should move your entire body with every word you say.  By doing this it will get others excited, keep them awake, and interested in what you are saying.

 FINAL THOUGHTS

That wraps it up for this edition of The Tank.  I thank you for allowing me to “fuel your tank” with tips, tools, techniques, and resources that will make you a better Leader .  I hope that you have enjoyed reading my newsletter, gained some valuable insight on Leadership, and continue to read next month.  Continue to check back often at Leadertank.com for updates and new material as I am working hard to get new products finished and posted all the time.  Also, don’t forget to watch LeadertankTV on YouTube, check out my blog, drop me a line to let me know what you think, join the Leadertank mailing list, add us me as a friend on Facebook, and follow me on twitter.  Keep “fueling your tanks” and be the best Leader you can be.

Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

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“Be a class act”

Be a class act by offering to help even when it is not needed, it shows the amount of class you have. Anyone can just stand around and watch others struggle or work. And, for the most part there are people that don’t ask for or even require your help/assistance. But it’s up to you to show how much of a class act you are by at least offering anyway.

 
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Your ATTITUDE is your CHOICE

     Every one of us has had something bad happen to us, and when it did, our thoughts, emotions, and attitude changed because of this significant emotional event.  Now, I understand that some circumstances are extremely negative such as a death in the family, divorce, and getting fired from a job to name a few, but even in these situations, there can be positive from it.  Let’s take a look below at some negative or stressful situations and look at the positive side of them.

Negative/Stressful Situation

Positive Outlook

Death in the family The family member is no longer suffering and is in a better place with God
Divorce There are better people out there that has the same potential to do whatever your previous spouse done
Getting fired from a job Maybe you were in a rut and now you have the freedom to take on something new that will create a better future for you with more benefits, skills, and marketability
Getting into a car accident Nobody really ever wants to get into an accident or gets into one on purpose, but if you do, calmly exchange information and get it fixed without trying to find fault
Someone talking about you If none of it is true then don’t worry about it, don’t try and defend yourself because that empowers the person talking about you.  Just ignore it.   Some people have nothing better to do than to feed off other people’s emotions, so don’t let them affect yours.

 

 

Outside circumstances may try to intervene in you having a great day but you choose how you will react to those circumstances by having a positive or negative attitude.  What I want you to understand is that attitude is a choice and that there can be personal gain, positivity, and happiness, regardless of circumstance.  It’s all in how you choose to look at the situation; because every situation has its pros and cons, negative and positive, gains and losses, and so on.  Remember that your attitude is a perspective that is controlled by you.  If you look at situations from different perspectives then you can see all sides of the situation from many diverse interpretations.

On the other hand, there are positive situations that can have a negative/stressful effect on you as well.  Let’s take a look at some positives and their possibilities.

Positive Situation

Negative/Stressful Possibilities

Positive Outlook

Birth of a baby Unprepared financially, family is split up, birth defects A new edition to the family will bring new and exciting opportunities/responsibilities
Job promotion Will have to move to another city, will work longer hours, will be responsible for more people A promotion will give you the opportunity to affect others positively and pass on your knowledge and experience
Marriage Family members did not approve, preparation of event making sure everything is perfect You will get to spend your life moments with the one you love and create joy by completing one another
Going back to school You may have forgot a lot of things you knew when you were younger, younger students make you feel old You will learn new skills that will help make  you relevant and marketable in today’s business, corporate world

 

 

In and of themselves, the previous listed are positive situations that can have a negative effect.  But once again, you choose how you look at the situation whether it is positive or negative.  Most people like to look at the negative side of any given situation and can cause undue hardship and pain on those that are trying to look at life in a positive manner.  But, it’s up to you to have the right attitudeYour attitude is something you control.  If you let someone control your attitude, you have just given your power away to that person and they have stolen your joy in life. Don’t let anyone steal your joy, choose to be happy.  Choose the right attitude.

Below are some tips that will help you stay positive in a negative situation.  Pick which ever ones you want that will work for you or try them all out.

  • If you are not calm, then don’t respond in such a way that you will regret later
  • Take a deep breath so you can calm down
  • Talk to others kindly.  Remember, friction causes more friction.  Anger breeds anger.
  • Regardless of circumstance, there are opportunities for positive within negative
  • When listening to others talk, don’t search for the negative.  Highlight the positive so your interaction with them remains positive
  • Constant negative feelings have a profound impact on your health, so stay positive and stay healthy
  • Go for a run.  Running is better and cheaper  than therapy
  • Don’t be afraid to admit that you made a mistake.  Others will appreciate you more if you are honest and direct with them
  • Don’t be the one who has to get in the last word.  Sometimes you should “just listen”
  • Realize that you can’t change everyone and sometimes it’s best to just leave it be

Final Thoughts

     That wraps it up for this edition of The Tank; I just want to leave you with the final thought of “actions lead to reactions”.  Having said that, how you choose to react is completely up to you whether your reaction is positive or negative.  Even though there are negative things that can happen every single day, how you choose to react to those negative situations are up to you.  Believe it or not, there can be positivity from negativity.  Have a great day and choose positively.  If you believe this edition of The Tank was a positive influence and can be beneficial to someone, please feel free to pass it along to all your friends or tell them to visit Leadertank.com to download it.  You can also get even more motivating and inspiring messages by reading Daily Fuel at Leadertank.com.  For a more interactive leadership experience with me, feel free to add me as a friend on facebook, dropping me a line at Leadertank@gmail.com and letting me know you want to join my mailing list, or if you just want to talk, or ask me a question.

THANK YOU FOR READING

Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

You have to learn to pick and choose your battles. But what if everything is a battle?  I can assure you that everything is not a battle.  Not everything is worth arguing over.  Not everything is worth your time and more importantly your energy and health.  If we let every little thing get to us and we feel we need to defend our ground, our lives would be miserable all the time and there would never be any rest for the weary.  Below are some things you should consider when picking your battle.

  1. Is the battle worth your time, effort, and energy?
  2. Can you win the battle or is it a never ending escapade?
  3. Do you have a solution to make things better, or are you just arguing for argument sake?
  4. Is there a common ground that everyone can agree upon?
  5. Does the battle even matter to the “big picture” of things?
  6. Will this battle cause resentment and undue hardship later affecting a professional or personal relationship?
  7. Will this battle have a profound impact on the lives of others?

These are just a few.  Join the conversation and let me know of any other considerations you can think of that might help you pick your next battle or just forget about it.

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In this rapid paced life we live in it is vital that we take time to slow down and do something that makes us happy. All too often we find ourselves wrapped up in work, work, work and nothing that resets and relaxes us. In order to maintain a healthy lifestyle, it is imperative that we find something that we can do that makes us happy and take our mind, body, and spirit away from the stress of our daily lives. I’ve often found that many things make people happy. From something simple as listening to music to a shopping spree. Join the conversation and let everyone know what is it that you do that makes you happy when you are in a rut and take your mind off the stress of daily life ?