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“Just when you think it’s over, it’s just begun”

This statement has two sides to it depending on your attitude towards the situation which has both a positive and a negative. The negative side to it is when you you think it’s over and you “give up” then, you’re right, “it’s over”. But, if you look at this from a positive perspective and think of this as an opportunity, then your journey to something better has just begun.

After all, if you have hit rock bottom and think it’s over, there is nowhere to go but up, thus beginning your journey to something better than where you previously were. So my challenge to you is this; when you think you have hit bottom and it looks like it’s over, embrace the idea that it’s not over but the beginning to something better.

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You are always on display

You are always on display.  The things you do and say can have a profound effect on other people whether positive or negative.  Whether you know it or not, someone is always watching and listening to every word you say and every move you make.  By doing this, people watching and listening to you are learning by the actions you take, and don’t take.  There are many things that can be learned from watching others, and emulating the actions they take.  Highlighted below are some concepts that further discuss this idea.

 Visual Learners 

Most people are visual learners and learn better by being visually stimulated with pictures, video and real life examples of people they trust and respect.  Giving someone a visual example shows them exactly what and how something should be done.  This clears up most confusion and questions the individual may have.  Even though someone shows you what and how to do something, keep in mind that this may not necessarily be “the way” to do something but instead “a way” of doing something.    Once you have a clear picture of what and how to do something, don’t hesitate to put a little of “you” into it as long as the desired result/outcome is still accomplished.

 Children will emulate what they see and hear

From the very beginning of life, children learn from watching their parents and emulate the things they hear and see their parents do and say.  The old saying of “monkey see, monkey do” goes into effect here as a child will surprise you by doing exactly what they hear and see you do as a parent.  This was apparent as one day as I had company over at the house, and my three year old son immediately repeated the “expletive” one of my guest said out loud upon stubbing his toe on one of my chairs.  As a child gets older and more independent, the child still learns from things they hear and see their parents and others do, but will put their twist on it to make it their own. 

Adopting things as your own

Sometimes when we hear or see something we like, we want to adopt it as our own.  So what we will do is tweak what we see or hear to our likes and dislikes to make it our own.  There are so many great examples of things happening in the world that we often adopt all these great things to match, enhance, or build our own successful way of creating, doing, and saying things.  There is nothing wrong in emulating what you hear and see others do as long as you give credit where credit is due.

 

FINAL THOUGHTS

 Next time you think about saying or doing something, keep in mind that “you are always on display” and the things you say and do could be emulated by others to include children.  If you want to make a positive impact or influence on someone, then it is up to you to establish habits of doing and saying positive things, as negativity can have a profound effect on someone.  If you believe that the resources found here at Leadertank.com have been valuable, please feel free pass this site on to all your friends and family and let me know by dropping me a line at leadertank@gmail.com.  I would love to connect and hear what you have to say.

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Terry W. Thompson

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Your ATTITUDE is your CHOICE

     Every one of us has had something bad happen to us, and when it did, our thoughts, emotions, and attitude changed because of this significant emotional event.  Now, I understand that some circumstances are extremely negative such as a death in the family, divorce, and getting fired from a job to name a few, but even in these situations, there can be positive from it.  Let’s take a look below at some negative or stressful situations and look at the positive side of them.

Negative/Stressful Situation

Positive Outlook

Death in the family The family member is no longer suffering and is in a better place with God
Divorce There are better people out there that has the same potential to do whatever your previous spouse done
Getting fired from a job Maybe you were in a rut and now you have the freedom to take on something new that will create a better future for you with more benefits, skills, and marketability
Getting into a car accident Nobody really ever wants to get into an accident or gets into one on purpose, but if you do, calmly exchange information and get it fixed without trying to find fault
Someone talking about you If none of it is true then don’t worry about it, don’t try and defend yourself because that empowers the person talking about you.  Just ignore it.   Some people have nothing better to do than to feed off other people’s emotions, so don’t let them affect yours.

 

 

Outside circumstances may try to intervene in you having a great day but you choose how you will react to those circumstances by having a positive or negative attitude.  What I want you to understand is that attitude is a choice and that there can be personal gain, positivity, and happiness, regardless of circumstance.  It’s all in how you choose to look at the situation; because every situation has its pros and cons, negative and positive, gains and losses, and so on.  Remember that your attitude is a perspective that is controlled by you.  If you look at situations from different perspectives then you can see all sides of the situation from many diverse interpretations.

On the other hand, there are positive situations that can have a negative/stressful effect on you as well.  Let’s take a look at some positives and their possibilities.

Positive Situation

Negative/Stressful Possibilities

Positive Outlook

Birth of a baby Unprepared financially, family is split up, birth defects A new edition to the family will bring new and exciting opportunities/responsibilities
Job promotion Will have to move to another city, will work longer hours, will be responsible for more people A promotion will give you the opportunity to affect others positively and pass on your knowledge and experience
Marriage Family members did not approve, preparation of event making sure everything is perfect You will get to spend your life moments with the one you love and create joy by completing one another
Going back to school You may have forgot a lot of things you knew when you were younger, younger students make you feel old You will learn new skills that will help make  you relevant and marketable in today’s business, corporate world

 

 

In and of themselves, the previous listed are positive situations that can have a negative effect.  But once again, you choose how you look at the situation whether it is positive or negative.  Most people like to look at the negative side of any given situation and can cause undue hardship and pain on those that are trying to look at life in a positive manner.  But, it’s up to you to have the right attitudeYour attitude is something you control.  If you let someone control your attitude, you have just given your power away to that person and they have stolen your joy in life. Don’t let anyone steal your joy, choose to be happy.  Choose the right attitude.

Below are some tips that will help you stay positive in a negative situation.  Pick which ever ones you want that will work for you or try them all out.

  • If you are not calm, then don’t respond in such a way that you will regret later
  • Take a deep breath so you can calm down
  • Talk to others kindly.  Remember, friction causes more friction.  Anger breeds anger.
  • Regardless of circumstance, there are opportunities for positive within negative
  • When listening to others talk, don’t search for the negative.  Highlight the positive so your interaction with them remains positive
  • Constant negative feelings have a profound impact on your health, so stay positive and stay healthy
  • Go for a run.  Running is better and cheaper  than therapy
  • Don’t be afraid to admit that you made a mistake.  Others will appreciate you more if you are honest and direct with them
  • Don’t be the one who has to get in the last word.  Sometimes you should “just listen”
  • Realize that you can’t change everyone and sometimes it’s best to just leave it be

Final Thoughts

     That wraps it up for this edition of The Tank; I just want to leave you with the final thought of “actions lead to reactions”.  Having said that, how you choose to react is completely up to you whether your reaction is positive or negative.  Even though there are negative things that can happen every single day, how you choose to react to those negative situations are up to you.  Believe it or not, there can be positivity from negativity.  Have a great day and choose positively.  If you believe this edition of The Tank was a positive influence and can be beneficial to someone, please feel free to pass it along to all your friends or tell them to visit Leadertank.com to download it.  You can also get even more motivating and inspiring messages by reading Daily Fuel at Leadertank.com.  For a more interactive leadership experience with me, feel free to add me as a friend on facebook, dropping me a line at Leadertank@gmail.com and letting me know you want to join my mailing list, or if you just want to talk, or ask me a question.

THANK YOU FOR READING

Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

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“Anyone can destroy something, but not everyone is building something”

There is a lot of negativity going on in the world today.  From the news, newspapers, internet, radio, and television we can get our fill of all the bad things that are destroying our society.  Not very often are there any stories of hope, inspiration, motivation, and anything that is going to bring a tear to our eyes and make our hearts drop. 

As a society we have grown to feed off this negativity and often go through great lengths to observe it, read about it, listen to it, partake in it, and even worse condone it.  It’s time that we put a stop to all this nonsense and start setting a new example for the world. 

We need to quit focusing on all the things that are destroying us and see what we can build because our future, our children’s future, and future generations to come depend on the example we set now.  Now is the time for change, now is the time to step up, now is the time to put negative destruction in its place and build a brighter, happier, more peaceful future. 

But we cannot do this alone.  It is going to take a team of highly motivated, truly dedicated LEADERS doing their part that will make the difference in the bigger picture of things.  Join the conversation now by answering any or all of the questions below.

  • What are you going to do today that will make a difference in building our future?
  • Who is going to stop being a part of the problem and become a part of the solution by stepping up and being a leader in their circle of influence?
  • How has your Leadership influenced someone to make a difference?

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“Thinking negatively cannot change what has already happened.” 

How often have you made a mistake and spent the entire day wallowing in your own guilty self pity? When you do this you are draining yourself of valuable time and energy that could be spent on something you have positive influence over instead of something that has already come and gone. 

By getting upset, you will not accomplish anything anyway, so don’t get bent out of shape over something that has already come and gone. When you do make a mistake it is good to learn from it so that it does not happen again. When you get upset over something that you have no affect on after the fact you waste time and energy over things that are no longer important. 

So, instead of beating yourself up over something you no longer have influence over, learn from your mistake, be aware that it has the potential of happening again if you are not vigilant, and move on to the things you can have a positive influence over.

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“If a leader finds a shortcoming in an employee, it is better to teach them than to judge them.”

Have you ever had a boss or supervisor that would just identify every fault you ever had or made?  I have had a few and found that their judgmental preaching was destructive instead of constructive. When trying to build or develop your team, it is better to complete your team members with positive re-enforcement than it is to defeat them with negativity.  As a leader you need to learn to be empathetic in order to by sympathetic.  By putting yourself in the shoes of the employee you can then begin to understand that there are many things that could have prevented the employee from putting forth their best effort in any given situation.  

Below are some tips and suggestions that will help establish or maintain effective team building.  These concepts will prove to be beneficial not only to the individual team members but the organization as well.

    • Giving your employees the benefit of the doubt that maybe they didn’t understand the intent of the task by not being too good to repeat the task or restate the intent another way so that it is understood 
    • Developmental counseling sessions that identify overall strengths and weaknesses to develop a team member positively into the employee you want them to be and the success they want to be
    • Start a Junior Leadership Program in which you give everyone a chance to be a leader and learn from those experiences.  This proves to be an effective system that enables leader growth and development by giving your employees the knowledge, insight, and most importantly the confidence to lead in any given situation.

These are just a few.  Join the conversation by sharing your thoughts and ideas with the group.