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Have you ever noticed that every time you run across someone either in passing, at the check out counter, or within a conversation with a friend or family that the first question that comes out of their mouth is “how’s your day or how you doing”? Usually the response is “I’m ok, fine, fair to middling, great, outstanding, fair to partly cloudy, moderately neato, some other positive remark, or a sarcastic negative response”.

I’ve always been intrigued by that. It’s almost as how someone’s day is going will determine how the conversation is going to go. If someone is having a good day then the conversation is usually quick, to the point, and done. But if someone is having a bad hair day then the conversation will go one of two ways. One it could go the way of you are a sympathetic ear and will listen to every word this person has to say as they dump all their problems onto you because you brought up the question. Or, two it could cause a really awkwardly tense moment and you try your best to get out of the conversation by either looking at your watch or creating something else you have to do and you have to leave now.

This question is a great conversation starter or ender depending on how you look at it. But, if you are not prepared for the person to really tell you how their day is, then I suggest you don’t use this as a conversation starter because it could start a whole different thing than you originally intended. Usually I veer off to my next question/conversation starter which is “what about this weather we’re having”, which has the exact same potential for either a negative or positive response. So I am still wondering is there a better way to start a conversation, and if so what is it?

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ALWAYS BE THANKFUL

There are many things that people take for granted.  I am thankful for everything that has been a part of my life from the things that I have accumulated to the friends and family that I have been blessed with,  because in an instant it could all be gone.

About 20 years ago I lost all my physical belongings from my childhood and early adulthood due to a flood that destroyed everything I had stored in a garage.  To me, this was devastating as I had several really good memories from all the things that I had accumulated over the years leading up to that event.  The things that were all lost had always reminded me of good and bad times from earlier days and in my mind will never be replaced.

Even though all these physical items were gone and can never be replaced, I am thankful that there was nothing other than these items with no loss of life or limb from a loved one.  Every single day there are things that happen in this world that we will never fully comprehend, understand, or even have the ability to do something about.  The only thing you can do is plan for the worse case scenario by being prepared for anything that may come your way.

I often do what is called role-playing with scenarios.  It’s almost like doomsday prepping in the sense that I consider many things that could happen or play out with a particular scenario/situation and backwards plan all the things necessary to alleviate as much possibility for loss, damage, and so forth.  By being prepared you can minimize the effects of anything that possibly could happen.  But, in the meantime you can and should be thankful for what you do have and that nothing has happened, yet.

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One of my favorite songs is the one from the country group Alabama and the song is called “I’m in a hurry (and don’t know why)” and some of the lyrics are as follows:

I’m in a hurry to get things done
Oh I rush and rush until life’s no fun
All I really gotta do is live and die
But I’m in a hurry and don’t know why

Do these lyrics ring true for you? I have seen some people who are in a rush to get everything done and all they do is wish their life away because they think things are so negative that they just have to get it all over with and done as fast as they can as if there is something better just beyond the time they are wishing away.

One of the most interesting things I done to prove this point is that I was at a local convenience store, only purchased a few items, was at the check out counter and while I was checking out the cashier was being extremely rude and seemed to be in an extreme hurry to get me rung up and out of her hair.

Now, I was trying to be nice and strike up a conversation to brighten the mood of the situation but she was having none of that.  So in a final attempt, I just bluntly asked her “ma’am, what time do you get off work?”  She just kind of looked at me confused as if I was trying to ask her out on a date or something so I asked her again.  She just looked at me and in a huffy tone in her voice said “ I get off at 10 o’clock , what’s it to you?”  I looked her back square in the eyes and said “ma’am, you have another 6 hours to go before you get off work, what’s your hurry?”  Well, after I said that she just kind of looked at me and laughed and said “thank you, I needed that”.

Sometimes all you need to do is slow down and not be in such a hurry all the time and you enjoy things much better at a slower pace than you will trying to speed race through it all.

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ENCOURAGE or DISCOURAGE
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How often have you ever been told that you cannot do something?  Have you ever been discriminated against because of your gender, religion, age, sexual orientation, or even race?  When these things happen it is very discouraging, defeating, and down right degrading when it happens.  Would you agree or disagree?

Instead of discouraging someone, my challenge to you is to encourage someone.  By giving someone a “can do” attitude, you will have enabled them to believe in themselves, and accomplish more than they ever thought they could had you disabled them with negative comments or actions.

I like to look at “encouraging or discouraging” others as “enabling or disabling” others.  When you discourage someone, you disable them. But, when you encourage someone, you enable them.  Be an enabler, not a dis-abler.  You never know you may have to rely on that other person one day to help enable you.

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Do you need a motivational lift? From time to time we all need words of inspiration that will lift us and take us to higher places when we feel low. There have been many times I just didn’t feel like doing something and all it took was a simple someone calling out my name and it perked me right up. In other words, I was motivated by something extremely simple but produced maximum results.

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Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

Are you a STAR?

Someone That Anyone Recognizes. Don’t hesitate to allow your talents to shine through. Are you easily recognized for your efforts and abilities within your organization?

If you are a STAR, then everyone knows your capabilities and will use them. Otherwise, you will just be tasked out with random things that are not in sync with your ability and capability. Work to your strengths and make yourself recognizable within your organization, make yourself a STAR.

There is nothing wrong with standing out in a particular area. Sure, every time that one or few things you are a STAR at needs to be done, everyone will come to you to get it done, but there is nothing wrong with being specialized in something.Let it be known that you are good at something and you will be a valuable asset to your team or organization. Be a STAR.

 

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How to motivate your employees to accomplish more through direct engagement

Do you want to motivate your employees so they can be happier at work and accomplish more?  The idea is to make your employees want to work, want to be at work, and want to accomplish things for the organization instead of having to do all those things.  A Leader can inspire his/her employees through several tactics, techniques, and procedures.  However, the most important thing you can do as a Leader is to get to know your employees by interacting and engaging with them directly.  When employees are happy, they will give everything to their work and will be able to produce a much better workflow and product than an unhappy employee.  So get out of your office, engage with your employees, and find out how you can get the very best your employees have to offer out of them on a consistent basis.  The following tips, techniques, thoughts, and ideas will help you motivate your employees to give their best and create an environment within the organization that will make everyone happy to be a part of the family/team/organization.

Get to know your employee’s knowledge and experience – Approach each employee as a valuable resource with something to offer.  It’s up to you as the Leader to find out what that knowledge and experience is and use it.  If you use the right employee on the right task it will lead to better accomplishment of the task, and employee satisfaction in the sense that they are doing something they know and enjoy.

Know what is needed to accomplish daily tasks, and provide it – An employee, team, or organization that has all required training, supplies, and resources to accomplish a task, will.  Nothing is worse than needing something to accomplish a task and you don’t have it.

Maintain an open door policy – The most important thing you can do while engaging with an employee is to listen to them.  You must allow for easy and direct access for your employees to talk to you if they have problems or issues.  As a Leader, you want your employees to bring their problems and issues to you.  This is accomplished through trust and confidentiality.  When your employees trust you they will open up to you and this will lead to a better work environment when an employee can feel safe in a trusting environment.

Face to Face time – You must get out of the office and engage directly with each employee in their workspace environment to fully understand what it is that they are going through from their perspective.  This will help you identify first hand if there is anything that you can change, help, or influence.  The more you know about what your employees are going through on their grounds, the better you can understand their needs and requirements when they request it.  You can also have good face to face time by eating breakfast or lunch with your employees.  –   By eating a meal together this relaxes everyone in a remote setting and allows for everyone to open up and discuss things while having a meal together.

Clearly defined objectives – When an employee knows what, when, where, how and more importantly why they are doing something, you will get the very best out of them and they will accomplish the organizations expectations, leading to organization success.  You should also share company goals, philosophy, values, and vision to give the employee the overall big picture when things are done the way they are.

Social Organization Day’s – Nothing relaxes people and creates an atmosphere for bonding and socializing better than a stress free, fun filled, social gathering in which the organization’s employees can bring their family members and get to know everyone.  One great idea is to have a bring your own dish contest in which all recipes go into a cookbook, the winner gets the cookbook for free, and everyone else can pay for the cookbook.  These funds can go back into the company for funding of future organization days.

Start volunteer programs – Get your employees fired up by volunteering to help the local community.  There are many organizations that will allow you to volunteer to help them or allow you to work through them to help your organization.  Suggestions are:  a local car wash, bagging groceries, a bake sale, provide day care for a family night out.  One of the best volunteer opportunities I personally ever participated in was thanksgiving dinner at a retirement home.  All the employees in my organization got dressed up, went to a local retirement home, and had thanksgiving dinner with the residents.  After we ate, we had a live DJ to play music and we had an old fashioned dance with them.  This was extremely entertaining and created some fun memories for everyone involved.

Team Building/Professional Development Activities/Team Retreats – This can be as simple as setting up in the organizations conference room for a casual game night and playing team building games such as how well do you know each other.   This game is played in which you draw names from a hat, you then engage with that person, get to know everything you can about him/her,  and then you have to stand up and tell what you know about that person.   This can also be as elaborate as taking a team retreat trip to a remote location, having a catered dinner delivered there, and having a guest speaker motivate everyone with his/her words of wisdom on a pre-planned subject.

Hail and Farewell’s – This is an event that can be held once a month at a local restaurant or conference center.  The idea behind this that the organization welcomes all new employees, says farewell to those retiring or leaving the organization, and to present awards to recognize the accomplishments of those within the organization.

After Action Reviews (AAR) – Anytime that an event is conducted, the organization must hold an After Action Review (AAR) to cover what was supposed to happen, what happened, and what the team can do to make it better next time.  This time allows everyone involved in the event to discuss his/her thoughts, ideas, opinions, and suggestions.

FINAL THOUGHTS

That wraps it up for this edition of The Tank.  I thank you for allowing me to fuel your tank with tips, tools, techniques, and resources that will make you a better Leader .  I hope that you have enjoyed reading my newsletter, gained some valuable insight on Leadership, and continue to read next month.  Continue to check back often at Leadertank.com for updates and new material as I am working hard to get new products finished and posted all the time.  Also, don’t forget to watch LeadertankTV on YouTube, check out my blog, drop me a line to let me know what you think, join the Leadertank mailing list, add us me as a friend on facebook, and follow me on twitter.  Keep “fueling your tanks” and be the best Leader you can be.

Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

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“Stuck on Stubborn”

Have you ever tried to help someone who stubbornly refuses your assistance? Isn’t this frustrating to know that deep down in your heart you are trying to help someone and they just absolutely are not trying to hear a word you are saying? Sometimes you just can’t help someone who is “stuck on stubborn”, but at least you can put forth the effort to try. Even though they may have given up on everything, you should not give up on them. Keep trying because eventually these people who are “stuck” will see the light and you will break through their “stubbornness”. Believe me, once this breakthrough happens, the person you have just helped will be thankful you did.

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