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Come on, just one more bite.  You can do it, just watch one more episode of your favorite show, you don’t need to exercise.  Have another drink, your fine.  It’s going to be just me and the guys/girls, you can trust me.

Do these all sound familiar?

That is just temptation calling you and temptation is everywhere.  You don’t need that extra bite, you need to exercise, you don’t really need that drink, and a night on the town with the guys/girls has potential to end up in a strange place you have no business being at hanging around people with all sorts of bad intentions.

You have to maintain your high level of discipline so you don’t get out of control and out of sync with the things you want to accomplish in life. If your goal is to lose weight, then you have to maintain the discipline to not let temptation get the best of you regardless of what everyone else is eating.  If you goal is to write a book, then sitting around the house watching the television all day is not going to get that book written on it’s own.  And, I can assure you that drinking will lead you nowhere but down a long, slow road to problems that will still be there once you sober up.  Now hanging out with friends and family is a different thing, but you need to ask yourself “is the company that I keep in sync with my goals, or do I need new friends”?

If you answered “no” to the previous statement then I suggest you surround yourself with different people that will lead you in the right direction instead of tempting you into things that are not in sync with your goals and dreams .  Remember, temptation is lurking everywhere but you can avoid it by remaining vigilant, focused, dedicated, and most important of all disciplined enough to not fall for it’s grip on you from achieving personal and professional success.

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We all grew up with the saying that “a dog is man’s best friend”, would you agree?  I have had a few dogs in my day and I can say that every one of them provided me with unique unconditional companionship that will never be replaced or emulated again by any other dog or person in the world.

Do you have a best friend that you can truly count on to be there for you when you need them the most and that will be devoted to you in your time of need and give to you unconditionally and not ask for much in return.  A friend like that is hard to find nowadays.  I have found it strikingly odd that in the best of times our friend are always there for us laughing, smiling, and carrying on with us but the moment that the chips are down and we really need them that all of a sudden they are nowhere to be found, always have something else going on, or are completely unwilling to help  you out.   Have you ever had that happen to you.

If you are considered someone’s best friend then go all the way or don’t “fake the funk” by being their best friend one minute and then turn your back on them the next because it is an inconvenience for you.  Whether you want to believe it or not, one day you may actually need their help too and what do you think they are going to do.  Well, I’m not sure what will happen depending on the relationship you have with that person but it will go either one of two ways.  They will either help you or turn their back on you just the same as you did.  So my advice to you is choose your friends wisely, but never let them down.  You must always be willing to give unconditionally even when it’s all on the line.

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A poem I just wrote. Hope it makes you SMILE ! ! !
 
When your heart is on your sleeve, and tears are falling down
My shoulder’s always there for you, to let it all hang out
Don’t be afraid to let me in, i’ll shelter you from this rain
A friend indeed for a friend in need, to help you heal the pain
 
From good times to bad times, we’ve all had our share of trials
But everlasting memories, are only made from smiles
So as you go about your lives, I hope that you will share
A smile or two or maybe three, and spread JOY everywhere
 
A poem by Terry W. Thompson

Effective Communication Skills

How many times have you ever found yourself in a conversation, ceremony, motivational speech, or any situation in which you had no idea what was being said because of the speaker’s inability to communicate effectively?  Words are powerful and can make a person seem intelligent.  But, on the opposite end of that spectrum can also make a person feel dumb.  You have to be careful what words you use, how you use them, and who you use them with.  When you are communicating to an audience, or even an individual, fancy words will lose their impact if misunderstood or misinterpreted.  Even though you did not intentionally try to demean a person, it is possible that an awkward moment or situation could be created because of your ineffective communication skills, over use, or under use of words.

There have been many situations in which I have had to repeat myself, depending on my audience and the interpretation of what was said.  I have no problem with repeating myself and will say things 3-5 different ways to get my point across if need to, depending if what I said was understood fully or not.  However, there are many people who have the “I will not repeat myself” mentality.  I would much rather repeat myself and ensure that everything was understood than to have an employee out there beating his/her head up trying to figure out the intent behind something that was said because of ineffective communications skills, or if I used the wrong words.

 

The following tips will help you communicate more proficiently and be better understood by any audience:

Listen – The most important thing you can do when communicating is to listen. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.   Believe me, listening sends a louder message than any words you could ever say to anyone.

Keep it simple – Say what you have to say and nothing more.  Don’t feel like you have to construct long, elaborate, drawn out, sentences to get your point across.  This will only cause boredom and you will lose the attention of your audience.

 Know your audience – A conversation will not have the same impact if you were talking to children, teens, young adults, professionals, amateurs, and so on….  It is imperative that you know your audience.  You would not try to sell a magazine to a bunch of blind people or certainly try to play a beautiful piece of music to a deaf audience.  So you need to know who it is that you are talking to first so that you don’t lose or confuse them.

Dictionary words – The use of big, fancy dictionary words does not impress anyone, so don’t use them.  If anything, you will confuse your audience with what you really mean, especially if they don’t know what the words you are using mean.  At the opposite end of that spectrum is the use of unnecessary words.  Admit it, there are times you have been in a conversation in which you had no idea what the main point was because of overuse of words which caused the main point not to shine through all the additional verbiage.

 Look at them directly – Talk directly to people, not at or away from them.  It is very uncomfortable and causes tension if both people talking do not look at each other by looking away or “the 1000 yard stare conversation”.  It creates a situation in which trust and genuineness is doubted.

Think before you speak – How often have you seen or heard someone talking and wondered “why is this guy talking”, or “there he/she goes again”?  Let’s face it, there are going to be times in which we wish we could take back something that we said.  But, if you happen to step on your own tongue and say something you either didn’t mean to or you mistakenly said the wrong thing, it is possible to recover from that mistake if you genuinely apologize and re-state what was supposed to be said in a respectful and professional manner.

Offensive versus defensive – Don’t be offensive when speaking.  Crude, rude, and vulgar language makes you sound unintelligent, weak-minded and it is disrespectful.  Being defensive also makes you look weak or you are lying.  If someone does not challenge you about what you are saying then there is no need to defend it.  Say what you have to say and leave it at that.

 Watch your tone – It’s not only important “what” you say, but “how” you say it as well.  Your tone of voice and the way you say words can have a positive or negative impact. You will have your audience in the palm of your hand, running for the hills, ready to defend, or not listening to you at all depending on the tone of voice in which you are talking to them.  If you speak in a clear, concise, professional, caring tone of voice you have your audience right where you want them.  But, if you speak in a condescending tone of voice, as if you were talking down to your audience you will either have them on the defense or not listening to you at all.  So, be careful “how” you talk to people as it could be disastrously misinterpreted.

Everyone loves a story –Tell your audience a story if you have a personal or professional experience that will describe what you are trying to say that gives a great example.  By doing this, it makes what you are trying to say seem more “human” and people can relate to a story better, especially if there is something humorous in there that they have done too.

Avoid using slang – Slang words confuse people especially if they don’t know the meaning behind the word.  This could cause an awkward or negative situation depending on the interpretation of the slang.

Body language says it all – You could be trying to say the most motivating, inspirational, uplifting thing in the world and your body language will cause what you are saying to lose its impact.  If you are excited about something then don’t hesitate to get your entire body into the action and let it do some speaking as well.  How often have you heard someone speak and they just stood there straight, rigid, almost scared and sounded extremely monotone.  This would make for a boring conversation, wouldn’t it?   If you are excited about what you are saying, you should move your entire body with every word you say.  By doing this it will get others excited, keep them awake, and interested in what you are saying.

 FINAL THOUGHTS

That wraps it up for this edition of The Tank.  I thank you for allowing me to “fuel your tank” with tips, tools, techniques, and resources that will make you a better Leader .  I hope that you have enjoyed reading my newsletter, gained some valuable insight on Leadership, and continue to read next month.  Continue to check back often at Leadertank.com for updates and new material as I am working hard to get new products finished and posted all the time.  Also, don’t forget to watch LeadertankTV on YouTube, check out my blog, drop me a line to let me know what you think, join the Leadertank mailing list, add us me as a friend on Facebook, and follow me on twitter.  Keep “fueling your tanks” and be the best Leader you can be.

Sincerely,

Terry W. Thompson

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I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s and worshipped a lot of the musicians and actors of my time just like any of the kids do exactly the same today.  Sure, I never really got to meet any of them and only got to see or listen to them if and only if they were on the television or radio station I was listening to at the time and was lucky enough to have a blank vcr tape or cassette tape ready to hit record, otherwise I missed it.

Today, it is much different from when I grew up.  With the ever expanding wave of media formats that are exposing today’s “Teen Idols” to more people in more countries brings a revolution in Leadership opportunities and influence for these young artists to make an amazing impact on our children’s lives and culture.  Justin Bieber is one such “Teen Idol” that could make a huge impact.  Instead of just tossing his name and face on watches, cologne, posters, lunch boxes, and the plethora of many other products that industry is looking to make a dollar off his image, why don’t some organizations use him as a public service representative to speak to kids about things?  It makes me wonder, are there any positive organizations out there trying to use these “Teen Idols” to make a worldwide influence on something other than mommy and daddy’s wallet.

I believe that would be amazing if someone like Justin Bieber was to put on miniature “free” shows at High schools, churches, and other organizations with a positive message that will motivate, inspire, and more importantly influence kids to be something greater than they could possibly ever dream.  The concept would be to go from “Teen Idol” to “Teen Leader” and lead a revolution of young minds to a future of amazing possibilities.

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“Regardless of how painful it is to our ego or pride, sometimes we all need a little outside perspective.”

Have you ever seen or been around one of those people that absolutely refuses to seek and/or take anyones help and/or advice? Sometimes we need a little outside perspective.

Generally speaking, when someone offers advice or help they are not trying to impose, be rude, or overstep their boundaries by thinking that you are dumb/stupid. They are merely offering a helping hand from their perspective because they seen something that maybe you didn’t.

So, the next time someone offers their assistance, don’t hesitate to at least give it a try. You never know, it may just be what was needed from a different perspective.

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“APPLY and ADAPT so that you can have control over your destiny”

How often have you heard people complain about their job, friends, family, co-workers, employees, money, traffic, and other people or situations. I am here to tell you that you have control over your destiny if you APPLY and ADAPT.

APPLY your knowledge and experience to situations you have control over so that you can influence and add value others. Be open minded and flexible in order to ADAPT to the situations in which you have no control.

Through positive influene you can make a difference not only your life, but in the lives of others. My challenge to you is APPLY and ADAPT where you can to control a destiny.

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