Overcoming Perfectionism ! ! !

Posted: March 8, 2012 in Uncategorized
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“If you seek PERFECTION in everything, you will achieve it in nothing”

How many times have you moved something around just after you put it there looking for that perfect angle? How often do you write something down, erase it, and re-write it 100 times until it is perfect? Have you changed clothes, re-applied your makeup, or fixed your hair so many times in the morning and just can’t get it right? It is possible that you could be obsessed with PERFECTIONISM.

If you get bent out of shape just because something is not perfect, you will find yourself on an emotional roller-coaster ride that will lead you nowhere. There is nothing wrong with the imperfections in life. They are there to remind us that nobody is more perfect than God. The bible has taught us that nobody is perfect. ‘For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God’ (Rom 3:23).

This verse reminds us that everyone has sinned and falls short of the glory of God. But even though we are imperfect, God loves us just the same no matter what we do. Below are some tips that will help you overcome PERFECTIONISM.

• Become aware of your tendencies
• See the positive, not the negative
• Set achievable goals/expectations
• Learn to laugh and don’t let anyone steal your joy
• Study successful people
• Get over yourself
• Understand that rejection is not the end
• Understand that constructive criticism is not meant to destroy you, but help you, from another perspective
• Acknowledge your achievements instead of failures (the 80/20 rule)
• Quit comparing yourself to others
• Enjoy the journey, instead of complaining about the path
• Love yourself and what you do

These are just a few. Join the conversation and let me know what tips you have to OVERCOME PERFECTIONISM.

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Comments
  1. Tate90 says:

    Thanks for your great post!

    What helped me to overcome perfectionism also was:
    – When I set a goal I plan a specific time for it. Keep that time, and do your best in that time. When the time is over, you are done. It will be hard, because your works don’t seem to be as well as usually, but it will help you to overcome.
    – When you are with friends, do things more spontaneously, being aware that you might embarrass yourself.
    – if you work with God: know that, if you do your best, he will do the rest. (Jesus made that clear in the story with the fishes and the bread)

  2. leadertank says:

    Thank you Tate for your response.

    Good ideas to help overcome perfectionism. I believe that we all come up with great ideas with imperfections. These imperfections allow us to build on a good idea and make it great over time. Being spontaneous is amazing and helps create some good things especially around friends because if you cannot be yourself around friends and take their criticism, then it will be twice as hard to overcome any criticism from anyone outside your circle of trust. Believe in God and He will not let you down. Have a great weekend, and once again thank you for the reply.

  3. Yes, I used to waste time trying to make things just right and ended up not getting much done. In writing, I used to rehash the stuff so often that I would end up coming back to the same place three or four times. Things were not getting better they were just getting more confused.

    Somehow, I got out of the habit of fearing criticism. I don’t know how this happened. It must have been a gift from the god of writing.

    Now after I finish the first draft my goal is to simplify. I want to cut away the forest to reveal the trees. It amazes me how ruthless I have become with my own work. I don’t worry anymore about losing some of that “good stuff.” I know I can rely on my subconscious mind to come up with some more good stuff whenever needed. Therefore, the order the day is to slash and burn. Afterwards I might rearrange what’s left or add just a tiny bit more of the good stuff.

    Am I totally cured of being a perfectionist? Maybe not. I’m probably more like a reformed alcoholic. Burp!

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