You have to learn to pick and choose your battles. But what if everything is a battle?  I can assure you that everything is not a battle.  Not everything is worth arguing over.  Not everything is worth your time and more importantly your energy and health.  If we let every little thing get to us and we feel we need to defend our ground, our lives would be miserable all the time and there would never be any rest for the weary.  Below are some things you should consider when picking your battle.

  1. Is the battle worth your time, effort, and energy?
  2. Can you win the battle or is it a never ending escapade?
  3. Do you have a solution to make things better, or are you just arguing for argument sake?
  4. Is there a common ground that everyone can agree upon?
  5. Does the battle even matter to the “big picture” of things?
  6. Will this battle cause resentment and undue hardship later affecting a professional or personal relationship?
  7. Will this battle have a profound impact on the lives of others?

These are just a few.  Join the conversation and let me know of any other considerations you can think of that might help you pick your next battle or just forget about it.

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  1. Victor R. Goldner says:

    The hardest thing to do is walk away from a fight when you know you are right but the atmosphere you are working in means it won’t matter in the end. I work for the government and its attitude of being fair to everyone means that if the contractor raises enough of a fuss then they will get their way. In this environment it is easy to see how the government is always broke and won’t stand up for itself.

  2. leadertank says:

    Thank you Victor for your response. I have worked with contractors in the past and can understand exactly what you mean. I believe that contractors serve a great purpose for the government but at times have been a challenge to deal with because of rules, regulations, and restrictions that both parties have to adhere by. So it’s a double edge sword and both sides have legitimate arguments. I look at it this way. There is nothing wrong with arguing or battling it out as long as what you are arguing over is for the better of the group, the project, the team, the job, the contractor, safety, and so on. But I have also seen the opposite end of the spectrum and watched as contractors will argue for arguments sake to take advantage of the system because they can. Both side have the ability to argue, both sides have the ability to defend and stand their ground. It’s all a matter of how effectively things are communicated that is the difference maker within how the argument is won or lost.

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