Posted: March 18, 2013 in Daily Fuel
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Have you ever noticed that every time you run across someone either in passing, at the check out counter, or within a conversation with a friend or family that the first question that comes out of their mouth is “how’s your day or how you doing”? Usually the response is “I’m ok, fine, fair to middling, great, outstanding, fair to partly cloudy, moderately neato, some other positive remark, or a sarcastic negative response”.
I’ve always been intrigued by that. It’s almost as how someone’s day is going will determine how the conversation is going to go. If someone is having a good day then the conversation is usually quick, to the point, and done. But if someone is having a bad hair day then the conversation will go one of two ways. One it could go the way of you are a sympathetic ear and will listen to every word this person has to say as they dump all their problems onto you because you brought up the question. Or, two it could cause a really awkwardly tense moment and you try your best to get out of the conversation by either looking at your watch or creating something else you have to do and you have to leave now.
This question is a great conversation starter or ender depending on how you look at it. But, if you are not prepared for the person to really tell you how their day is, then I suggest you don’t use this as a conversation starter because it could start a whole different thing than you originally intended. Usually I veer off to my next question/conversation starter which is “what about this weather we’re having”, which has the exact same potential for either a negative or positive response. So I am still wondering is there a better way to start a conversation, and if so what is it?
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Posted: March 7, 2013 in Daily Fuel
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ALWAYS BE THANKFUL
There are many things that people take for granted. I am thankful for everything that has been a part of my life from the things that I have accumulated to the friends and family that I have been blessed with, because in an instant it could all be gone.
About 20 years ago I lost all my physical belongings from my childhood and early adulthood due to a flood that destroyed everything I had stored in a garage. To me, this was devastating as I had several really good memories from all the things that I had accumulated over the years leading up to that event. The things that were all lost had always reminded me of good and bad times from earlier days and in my mind will never be replaced.
Even though all these physical items were gone and can never be replaced, I am thankful that there was nothing other than these items with no loss of life or limb from a loved one. Every single day there are things that happen in this world that we will never fully comprehend, understand, or even have the ability to do something about. The only thing you can do is plan for the worse case scenario by being prepared for anything that may come your way.
I often do what is called role-playing with scenarios. It’s almost like doomsday prepping in the sense that I consider many things that could happen or play out with a particular scenario/situation and backwards plan all the things necessary to alleviate as much possibility for loss, damage, and so forth. By being prepared you can minimize the effects of anything that possibly could happen. But, in the meantime you can and should be thankful for what you do have and that nothing has happened, yet.
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Posted: February 22, 2013 in Daily Fuel
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One of my favorite songs is the one from the country group Alabama and the song is called “I’m in a hurry (and don’t know why)” and some of the lyrics are as follows:
I’m in a hurry to get things done
Oh I rush and rush until life’s no fun
All I really gotta do is live and die
But I’m in a hurry and don’t know why
Do these lyrics ring true for you? I have seen some people who are in a rush to get everything done and all they do is wish their life away because they think things are so negative that they just have to get it all over with and done as fast as they can as if there is something better just beyond the time they are wishing away.
One of the most interesting things I done to prove this point is that I was at a local convenience store, only purchased a few items, was at the check out counter and while I was checking out the cashier was being extremely rude and seemed to be in an extreme hurry to get me rung up and out of her hair.
Now, I was trying to be nice and strike up a conversation to brighten the mood of the situation but she was having none of that. So in a final attempt, I just bluntly asked her “ma’am, what time do you get off work?” She just kind of looked at me confused as if I was trying to ask her out on a date or something so I asked her again. She just looked at me and in a huffy tone in her voice said “ I get off at 10 o’clock , what’s it to you?” I looked her back square in the eyes and said “ma’am, you have another 6 hours to go before you get off work, what’s your hurry?” Well, after I said that she just kind of looked at me and laughed and said “thank you, I needed that”.
Sometimes all you need to do is slow down and not be in such a hurry all the time and you enjoy things much better at a slower pace than you will trying to speed race through it all.
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